Wednesday, November 28, 2007


In the past few months with the increasing time lines of our adoption process from China - I have struggled with knowing what exactly I am to do with the facts that are in front of me. I have had so many different scenarios run through my brain that I would not even try and convey them in a blog! That is called a novel and blogs are just supposed to be shorter than that!

Our wants to have our children close together...will the process ever really come through for us? ...should we try other avenues? What avenues are available to us...There is no right or wrong answer to any of my questions. On that note - I guess it is not often that our decisions in this adult world are as simple as right or wrong. But this time...the number of choices just seems to out weight those present in other decisions I have had to make in my life. And the consequences of my decision will affect the people that I love the most! I am positive that a perfect path will unveil and I continue my soul searching so that I can choose best for the family that I am so blessed to have!

No child could ever be a bad decision - no matter matter where from - so that thought keeps me grounded and happy! We will adopt a child. I don't feel sorry for myself because of this delay in our adoption...I just want to make sure that this delay is not my calling to reach a different direction. Anyway - the purpose to all this gut spilling is because, our adoption agency sent a letter to all of the people who are enduring this long wait for their children. I thought a portion of it was worth sharing with my friends and family! I found it very helpful in my thought process and the message is not specific to adoption. Rather it is an inspiring way to look at life and I hope that someone else is able to find some inspiration in this beautiful story like I did:

...In conclusion, we want to share a story we heard recently from our pastor: Florence May Chadwick was an American swimmer who in 1950 was the first woman ever to swim the English Channel both ways. Two years later, Florence decided to take up the challenge to swim the 26 miles between Catalina Island and the California coastline. Hour after hour Florence swam, but after 15 hours, a thick, heavy fog set in. Florence began to doubt her ability and became discouraged. She struggled to swim for one more hour. Emotionally exhausted, she asked to be pulled out of the chilly water. As the fog gave way, Florence saw that she had stopped swimming just one mile from the California shoreline, her destination! Florence explained later that she quit because she could no longer see the coastline - there was too much fog. She had lost sight of her goal.

Two months later, Florence got back in the water to try again. This time was different. She swam from Catalina Island to the California shore in a straight path for 26 miles. The same thick fog set in, but this time she made it! She succeeded because, as she shared, she kept a mental image of the shoreline while she swam. She never allowed herself to lose the image of her goal.

Yes, as we have sadly predicted, some adoptive families will say "enough is enough" and decide to close their adoption files in the coming year. But if your heart is set on China adoption and if you believe that your child will come from China, then we strongly encourage you to keep the beautiful image of your child in your mind and heart, hang in there, and wait it out. When the fog of the unknown, frustration, and pain is finally lifted, you will be united with the child of your dreams.

A little bit of Fall work/fun!

So yesterday afternoon Steve and I discussed that we needed to rake leaves? Sounded like work? LOTS of work? So we just sad and made other things that were probably not so pressing - our Priority One for the day and ignored the daunting task that loomed over us!

At 3:00 Kyle came home from school as usual. But the unusual part was that he was GRUMP monster. Didn't want to play with our dear friend Benjamin who was waiting for Kyle to return with baited breath. Benjamin had been waiting all day to see his friend and Kyle got out of the car and looked him dead in the face and said, "I don't want to play with you...I don't want to play with anyone...I want to go inside!" Well Benjamin was beside himself with disappointment and I quite honestly...was a bit embarrassed of how Kyle had acted! So rude!

I let Kyle go inside and I was sitting on the front porch playing with our neighbor...trying to make up for my SON! When the idea hit me...If I rake a pile of leaves...then kyle will be happy and want to come back outside!

And what an idea it was. One of my better ones (as I don't have that many good ones to begin with!). Kyle came running out and so did Ben and Will...Benjamin and Bradley joined in and they had a grand time. Now after a few jumps...they wanted MORE I raked more! Then even that was not I continued to rake. Next thing I know...Steve has the leaf blower in the back yard and we are making piles to be reckoned with! By the end of the night we had 5 VERY tired children and every leaf in the yard was ready to bag! Now how did that happen? Was it work? Take a look at these photos and judge for yourself!!

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Friday, November 9, 2007

Boys will be boys!

The Mongold clan - minus Daddy - took a trip up to Wilmington Delaware last weekend to visit Nana, Grandpa, Uncle John, Aunt Sylvie and Amelia! We had such a great trip and I'll blog more about our trip and share tons of photos in the days to come.

Ben's most vivid memory of the trip is told by the photos that follow! And as the photographer and Mother of the little was so funny to me! I had to share!!

Uncle John and I took Ben in a hay maze and then followed this activity with the old "slingshot rotten apples at stuffed scarecrows" past time!!!

We started out in the hay maze and Ben was our fearless leader. He had a smile of confidence as we rounded the first bale of hay! He was taking us to the finish line with his keen sense of direction and his cunning instincts for survival! you guessed....this was our first DEAD END! Smile guys...I'm sure this will be the last one!

Well...Dead end number 22, at least, had a fun pile of hay to play in while we blew off our frustrations and regrouped for the rest of our journey!

IN the end....we did get out of the hay maze. And it had NOTHING to do with Ben's skills and everything to do with Uncle Johns height! At 6 foot 4 inches tall...Uncle John could look over the bails of hay and decide if we were heading the right direction!
As we exited the maze we see the coolest activity that Ben has ever seen. For a mere $5 we could purchase a bag of rotten apples! Yep...only 5 bucks!! And then we could put them in the handmade slingshots that were provided and hurl the wreckage into a field of stuffed scarecrows! I there anything more fun on this Uncle John purchases the ammunition!
He then explains to Ben exactly what we need to do to have fun! Put the apple in...pull back as far as you can and let it fly!
The whole way OVER THERE!!!

Ben puts in his first apple...let's it fly and it goes about 3 feet and drops! He looks at Uncle John like...THIS SUCKS!!

So Uncle John decides that he needs to add some weight to 40 pound Ben so that the apple flies farther! The following method of weight addition sent the apple flying a mere 10 feet! Still yards from its necessary destination!

Well, thought John...if I add our two weights together...I know we can cream one of those ugly scarecrows!!




Help...Uncle John is down... But who cares...I need to get up and watch that apple fly!!!

And that darn apple flew right down to the scarecrows! You would have thought Ben won the lottery! Thanks John for taking one for the team! Sorry for the dirty but!! :)
The duo used this method of lift "Ben" and pull...until the bag of apples was gone! And no launch was any less exciting than the one before it! Ben had a ball! (OH...and they only fell the first time!!!)
AT 5 years old...and at "over 30 years old"...the smiles were the same and the excitement equal! Boys will be boys! Thanks John for making your nephews weekend!!! :)

Tuesday, November 6, 2007

10 Rules that I NEVER thought I would have to make...

I had to make a new rule last night in the bathroom while the kids were crazy like a bunch of nutty boys can be! And while I sat last night at the computer after they went to bed I a mom...we sure do have to come up with some weird rules. Had someone told me 6 years ago that I would have said even one of the following things - let alone all of them - I would have though they were drunk!!! :) Anyway - here are some noteworthy rules that we have in the Mongold house. Please please...if you have some good ones that you want to share...put them in the comment section! This is just a small sampling the comedy that we seem to live on a daily basis!!

1.) Absolutely no peeing together in the same toilet at the same time. You don't concentrate...and someone always gets wet! YUCK!

2.) No straws up the nose when drinking yogurt drinks! It is not funny to make bubbles with your nose! JUST NOT FUNNY! And Will always seems to suck some back up through the straw it gets really ugly there!

3.) No pushing your brothers at light speed in a cozy coop car into the curb! You can push an empty car into the curb as hard as you like...but it HAS to be EMPTY!

4.) Under no circumstances are Ben or Will allowed to shut Kyle in a closet, cover him with a blanket, or sit on him! It makes him scream in a way that my skin crawls and I want to resign from mother hood!

5.) The dog is not a horse...she is not to be mounted using the coffee table as a ladder...and ridden until you fall off. I know Cali looks happy when you do it...but it can't be fun for her!

6.) When wiping your bum after poo poo - you are not to look at or examine the toilet paper. Just throw it away. And in addition...we must ALWAYS ALWAYS wipe twice...just to be sure we got it all! ....if I had a nickel for every time I say "Did you wipe know the rule!!??"

7.) If you fight with your brother - you WILL have to SIT AND HOLD HANDS for 10 min! If you complain about holding hands...I raise it to 20! (and I stick to it!?)

8.) No jumping out of the stroller while mommy is running! I can't read your mind...and I don't know when it is going to happen....and I will run over you and leave you if you don't follow this rule!

9.) If your mother has to go "number two" while we are all together in a public rest room it is illegal - with punishment of death - to discuss it with each other...or with other store patrons... while we are still shopping! No one want to know about that and it IS NOT FUNNY!

10.) The next person to grab their brothers "pee pee" while naked - bringing them to their knees in pain - will be sent to live with another family! I have you know it hurts...why the heck did I have to make this rule!?


Thursday, November 1, 2007

A halloween to remember!

Halloween was and always is a grand affair on Larkspur Lane! There is truly nothing like it! It started out at 3pm with our kids already dressed up. WE had a chili feast at Erica's Halloween bash and then out to the streets to play and do our trick or treating.

So many different levels of trick or treat skill in my family this year! Ben wanted to hit every house that was humanly possible in the time allotted! Kyle walked like he had 7 years to complete the task and therefore was always 10 houses behind. And Will just wanted to stay in the house with the person who gave him the candy and eat WITH THEM!!! :) I felt like a crazy woman and was blessed with neighbors who helped me out at every turn! In the end...I can't remember the kids being more happy and having more fun! And they all will have such different memories of the night...but in common they will have perfect memories of a night that was just for them!!! :)

We all shared photo taking responsibilities, so here are mine and then check out Sue's blog for more!!

The Dynamic Duo dressed up at 3:15pm! Ready to go from then on out! Can you tell who is who?Mommy and Will were ready by 5pm

The house was very spooky with candle ghosts, spooky jack-o-lanterns and glowing spiderwebs!

Courtney joined us for our annual Halloween Bash

Bradley had two costumes this year. Candy Corn and next came the spider!

Logie was the best Pluto ever!

Get Dressed already Justice...we have only 2 hours left till trick or treat time!

Wills favorite friend in more ways than one! You are too cute Andrew! the Ratz family is armed with costumes and ready for fun!

And at the end of the night...we all went to bed very happy and full of sugar and great memories! Thanks to everyone for the perfect Halloween!