Monday, February 25, 2008

Yeah...that makes Sense?!


This morning - as I sat at my computer e-mailing away... I heard the familiar rise in voices...the escalation of screams and "no's" and wines...that were about to end in an "all out" brawl between Kyle and Will. The kind that you KNOW for certain is NOT going to fix itself...so you sit and listen and wait...for the moment that you HAVE to step in before someone ends up with a black eye...What I heard went something like this:

Kyle: Will...Diego isn't real!
Will: Is too Kyle!

Kyle: No he isn't real! (a bit louder this time)
Will: YES YES YES YES YES YES YES....HE IS! (really loud and with conviction!)

Kyle: Diego isn't real because On Diego animals talk and they don't talk in real life!

Will: ANIMALS DO TALK TYLE ("Tyle" is kyle is the language of Will...and this time...he is in tears and speaking very softly...it was very sad!)

Kyle: Nope...they don't! (with a snotty tone in his voice that made even me want to knock him flat!)

Will: MOMMY.....TYLE IS BEING MEAN!! (full on crying now)

Kyle: Mommy...Will is hitting me!! (screaming like a crazy man and crying...and RUNNING)

So I decide this is the point where i need to get up and see what i can do to help the situation! I pick up Will in order to hold him back from swinging at his brother and I say to Kyle "Honey...Animals talk...Santa's reindeer talk right?" And he says...with tears on his face and with the most serious voice ever.

"No animals talk mom...Santa's Reindeer don't talk ...they only fly!"


Yeah...that was my morning...and this is my life! :) Here's wishing you all a day filled with sense!

Thursday, February 14, 2008

Unanswered Prayers

I was on my way to Washington DC this past weekend and a song came on the radio that I had not heard in so many years. It brought back memories - of the good and the bad variety - that I really had not thought about in so long. I remember hearing this song about 12 years ago just after a "low" time in my life. And for whatever reason - maybe this song is that good (probably not :)), or maybe I just heard it on a day that I needed a little encouragement...but it really helped me to see my situation differently back then. So when I heard it again - I came right home and found it for my blog so that I could share it with all of you. Guess it is playing right now! Or at least I hope I was able to make it work!! :)





To better explain my rambling: When I was in my early 20's I had a long time relationship with who I thought at the time was the perfect person for me - the love of my life - the person that I needed more than I needed my own breath. I prayed to God to give me a life with this person and to help this person to see that "I" was the one for him. I prayed to make me a better person. The kind of person that this man would love for all time. And in the end. It was not to be. I left my home in Pennsylvania with a broken heart and broken faith. While it may seem trite now - I felt that the life I wanted and prayed so hard for was denyed me. I was just sad and lonely...and as I drove my Ryder truck with my little car twoed on the back and my can meowing in the seat beside me - I was hoping for a new life here in Hampton roads...I better life...but I truly didn't believe I would find any such thing.





And here I am. 37 years old. With the most wonderful life, children I could not have even dreamed possible, and a husband that I count my lucky stars for. I thank God that my prayers were not answered some 12 years ago and I thank God for knowing better than me, what my real purpose was.





As crazy as it seems that such a young love gone bad could change my way of thinking about all that I am - it is true. I knew the day that we got married - that I was in the "right" place. I had no nerves, no second thoughts, no doubts? I had expected those feelings and was ready to combat them...but NOTHING. I just felt at peace up on that altar. And I as I sat in the car last weekend listening to that song - I realized just how much more at peace I get each year that passes. How much stronger my heart becomes with love for the family that we have created....and I could also no help but feel kind of sad that I had doubted.



I have learned a ton in this life of mine and will continue to do much more of the same! But I do promise this....To always remember that I am not in charge and that I will live in the faith that there is a plan for me and that I needed to let go and follow it. Blindly at time, and at times feeling in full control, but knowing through it all that I am carrying out a plan. Maybe not a plan that is set in stone or unable to change...but a general plan of who, what and how I need to be.





I pray for health and peace and for all those in need of strength. I pray for my kids and for my husband...but I don't pray for me. I have been given all that I need - I just remember...on the days that test me to the core...to use it. I won't ask for anything, but I will fight to move in the direction that I believe I am supposed to go in.





So today - it is valentine’s day and it is a day of love and celebrating all that is in your heart. And my heart is so full, and so blessed with the love of my husband, my children and all of my family and friends. Thank you God for not answering my silly prayers and for teaching me that some of your greatest gifts are things that we didn't even know or think that we wanted. The things that we didn't even know were possible. I just need to be strong and search for my way - my plan.

Updates on the Mongold Home Front












Well...I have not had too much out of the ordinary happen in the last couple of weeks. And In many ways that is a good thing!! :) No funny stories that I was inspired to write...but everyone is happy and healthy and enjoying Valentines Day together! Daddy Mongold (as Will calls him) is at sea with one of his boats, but is due back this week.

Steve gets in on Friday and then will turn around and fly to Florida on Saturday morning to meet with a real estate agent to find us a home to move into! The movers come to our house here in Chesapeake on June the 14th and three weeks later they will deliver our things to our new home! Hope we have one...but since the option is a card board box...I think we will have to find something that will suit! I'll send photos of the new place once we lock one in!

As for our wonderful house here on Larkspur Lane?! We have found a nice family that needs a plae to live for a couple of years while their daddy works in Suffolk! Perfect match for us and I know they will enjoy their time here! I know we sure have and we can't wait to get back!

Steve's time in Florida is about two and a half years and then we will make our treck to a new location. We, of course, want it to be back here in Chesapeake, but chances are that we will spend a couple of years in DC before we can finally get home to our friends and family!

It is started to really hit me that we have to move and there are all kind of emotions mixed up in that! I am excited for a little adventure, but knowing that my friends and family will be 10 hours away (and some much much further!!)....well...I know I am really going to feel the impact of it all after the initial few months has passed and we get into a normal routine. Good to know that it is not forever- that helps! And also wonderful to know that my friends are my family and they are with me no matter what state I live in. I am so lucky that way and know how blessed I am to have this stability and love in my life!

Ben just wants it to be warm! Kyle just wants to be able to have a YMCA! And Will....well...he just wants his mommy and I can promise him that!! :) Can't get rid of me!

Here are a few photos of the area that we are moving too! More as we get them! The area is Called Fernandina Beach/Amelia Island. It is a small community on the water and seems to have a very small town appeal to it! There is a ton of water with the ocean and the rivers that come together in this area. It used to be an old fishing town and port and has certain areas with a very historic beauty. Many parks and activities as well. Looks like a vacation - too bad Daddy has to work!! Everyone I have talked to so far has been super nice and seem very open to new people! The kids all have a school to attend and our adoption will come to fruition during our time in Florida. So we are planning our house for 4 kids! Wow...that seems like we will most certainly need 5000 square feet right! ha ah ah!

Happy Valentines Day to you all! We love you and will keep you posted as we get new details!

Tuesday, February 5, 2008

Make a sentence out of these Kindergarten "site" words?!

Each month Ben brings home from school - a list of words. They are new each month and usualy amount to about 6 or 7 of them. They are called site words. His job is to make flash cards and learn these words inside and out. How to spell them, how to read them, when to use them etc. etc. The purpose: If you know these words without even thinking...then reading will go much quicker. Souding out EVERY SINGLE WORD can take an eternity!! As I am sure that everyone who has had a Kindergartner would tell you! So we value the purpose of our site words and we learn them very well!!

Now each week that the site words come home in Ben's back pack...one of the assignments that week will be to make 3 sentences using some or all of the site words. That assignment is not until THursday night....but daddy was thinking ahead last night while we were making our flash cards at the kitchen table...and came up with a sentence that I think we will all find promising. I mean...this sentence uses every single site word...and needs no other words to finish it? What kindergartner would not get praised for a sentence that is SO VERY on the mark!

Here are the site words: In, But, He, Fun and Like

And STeve's sentence is.........................



















HE LIKE FUN IN BUT!


OH...I am so sorry that have put this on my blog, but the two of us laughed so hard that we cried! (and we certainly did not share with Ben...although he wondered why we were laying on the floor laughing) And hey...we didn't come up with the words? HOpe no one is offended and that you found this at least sort of funny!! I an sad to admit that is made our week!! :)