So Ben was sitting on the couch yesterday and he asked me - in a very serious tone of voice, "Mom...can you help having babies in your tummy - or does it just happen to you?"
I went on to explain that every child is chosen by the mommy and by God....and that having babies is a gift that mommies and daddies are given. Of course I get the "other" side to this argument....but at 7 - I think this is the only take that Ben needs to have. And truth be told...in most cases...especially in "our" world....my facts are true!
Chosen....that is what children are - babies are - pregnancies are....Chosen. They do not....Just happen!
I could tell that my words made Ben very happy - just the thought that he and his brothers were not random...and that they were chosen seemed to drop his shoulders and relax his face. Not sure why this question came about? He never did tell me.... I assume that he realizes that Josh was chosen and just wondered about the other people in the world - the non-adopted kind!! ha ha ha But just the same....here is where the conversation went from there.....
Ben: "But not all of your kids came from your tummy right?"
Mom: "That's true."
Ben: "It's kind of cool mom that two of your kids came out of your tummy and two didn't!?"
Mom: "Hmmmm.....what two kids came out of mommy's tummy?"
Ben: "Me and Kyle...and then you went to that Hospital in Virgina where they keep the babies and picked out Will and then you went to China, where they keep babies there...and picked out Josh." (no question in his voice at all.....he was TELLING me the way it was...question and answer time was over!)
Mom: "Honey...Will came out of mommy's tummy too?."
Ben: "NO...I remember coming in the car with Daddy to pick up Will and there were lots of babies there that you got to choose from."
Mom: (So i tried to explain the "nursery" in the hospital and how all of those babies came out of their mom's tummy etc. etc......And Ben listened very carefully and attentively through my whole dissertation)
Ben: "Ok...mom....but you just must not have the best memory....we'll ask Dad when he gets home...he'll tell you that we got Will at the baby hospital."
And with that...he walked away with confidence in his eyes and satisfaction in his stride! Yep...I am wrong...... ha ha ha
Don't you wonder how long he will believe that?! ha ha ha