Friday, February 25, 2011

The Almost Halmark Moment....

Always together....NEVER apart....but "I STILL DON'T WANT YOU TO HUG ME IN THE HALLWAY IN FRONT OF PEOPLE"!!!


Its Thursday afternoon. 1pm. Josh has been home with me all day, as it is not one of his school days. He is MW and F. Josh and I are standing in line outside of Will's classroom. Waiting to get to the front of the line of mom's and siblings....so that Will's teacher will call his name and he can walk out to meet us.


Josh has been waiting for this moment since we dropped Will off at 8:30 that morning. He is excited...jumping up and down...chanting...Will...Will...Will.


Now in this hallway with us are about 50 other parents and kids standing in line in front of different classroom doors...waiting to pick up their own children. It is utter Chaos...and we do it every day of the week at exactly 1:00pm.


And so time moves on and we are next. Josh is brimming...."Will...your mom is here", says Miss Lynn...and Will walks out into the hallway. As soon as JOsh sees him he runs up to him and just throws his arms around Will's trunk and buries his head in Will's chest!


It is only now that I realize how many people have been watching Josh and listening to his chanting. At least 15 mom's look at my two sweet boys....entwined in the middle of the hallway and start going, "Awwwwww....look how cute....ohhh.....".


Yep....for 3.2 seconds I was the proudest mom in the world. It was no less than a Hallmark moment in time!


And then.....


Will realizes that all of these bystanders are watching this public display of affections. I can see the look on his face changing as I move forward to try and prevent the event that I could clearly see was about to transpire....


Yep....not fast enough mom. Will pulls josh off of him...pushes him to the ground and runs out of the hallway toward the car.


Now Josh is crying and laying on the ground and everyone is just staring at us. At it all happened in about 10 seconds. But oh my....I wanted to crawl in a hole.


So I grab josh and move quickly....but trying not to look too flustered....toward the door that Will is hiding behind. By the time I get to Will he is in tears...he says, "Mom...josh hugged me and all those people saw....I hate Josh!!" And with this he is now truly crying...his face is bright red and he is "Pissed" at his brother!!


The truth is...I know that for 3.2 seconds...Will felt the same way Josh did...and Will is just not one for public affection..not even from his mom (and I am truly his fav person!! ha ha ha). But wow...talk about a Hallmark moment gone bad! I'll just never forget that 10 seconds of happiness/udder humiliation!! Chalk it up to another day in the life!! :)

Hmmmmm....3 months...no posts..

Well...so what have the Mongolds been up to? Lots...nothing that note worthy...but always busy! Basketball season has come and gone...baseball has started up. We have had 20 degree days and we have had 80 degree days. Just trying to roll with the punches, get it all done...and have some fun as we walk! Here are some pics of the last three months. Cool events...no super award winning pics!! But happy faces!

PS...I stole some pics from Mary and Sue because they just captured our street fun and I needed to share with the fam!! Thanks guys!!



Ben teaching Hayley to dribble and shoot! I think Hayley has a small crush on Ben and Ben loves to help her! He now wants a sister...I think Hayley has inspired this!

In the past couple of week of great weather this is what we do every day....RUN!! Look at the joy on those faces when they are just running!! Spring rocks! :)
Will will finally leave the house since it is above 60 degrees. He is a nut that way. HATES to be cold! And how much fun it is to have him back!! Hayley has her twin back in action to be crazy with!! :)



Oh my...put on your sun glasses...looks like three boys are in need of a serious TAN!! :) ha ha ha


Water fun in February....who would have thunk it?!?! :)



Flashlight tag!! Whoo hooo.....Mr. Chris has all the great ideas!!





No only are Josh and Maddy in the lighted garage....but they have their flashlights on. And they are supposed to be HIDING? Oops!! Too funny! :)




Ice skating one last time before the rink shut down for the year! So glad the boys are loving to skate this year!!! Benjamin came along for the fun! :)






This is Ben's dear friend from his class. She is so cute. They put their Research Gala Projects on the same table for friend support! Wow...what an undertaking this project was. Took most of January free time to get it ready!


I don't think Ben has ever been as nervous as he was the night before he had to present his project to over 75 people. But look a his face once he realized he was OK...he could "do it"!! Amazing. It was not easy for Ben...or mommy...to get through this anxiety...but the other side of that fence is an amazing amount of confidence in himself.....all WELL worth the struggle!! :)




We made a visit to Fayetteville, NC - Alyssa's new home town and were able to spend a weekend playing with our sweet baby girls! :) (and Niles!!)








The whole fam went to the MOnster Truck Rally in Hampton!! Loud, smelly fun! :)




Yes...Will has been crazy and unpredictable through the last few months...nothing has changed there. He is here SMELLING what donut he wants? In his UNDERWEAR? REALLY?
Feeding Ducks on Superbowl Sunday at Uncle Brians. That lake NEVER gets old!!
Pinewood Derby cars for Ben and Kyle this year. Neither won, but boy they had a ball. Boys just love to race cars! :)

Ben took this picture of mommy and turned to me and said, "You might want to erase this one mom...you look kind of bad!" ha ha ha...I said, "I think I look perfect and I just might put it on my blog!" And since he is helping me make this post...this one is for you BEN!! Your BEAUTIFUL and slightly tired....mom!! :)

Thursday, February 24, 2011

Ahhhh......A perfect evening!!!








Well there are just no words to say how happy it made me to see our dear friends the Cole's last Saturday night! They took some time away from the Great Wolf Lodge to have dinner with the crazy Mongolds. I wish we could have stayed together all weekend!!!


Michelle is awesome...sweet and dear and beautiful! And all of our boys were so happy together! Little Josh is IN LOVE with Big josh...I think he would have gone home with the Cole's just to be with his new best buddy!! :)



When I sat and looked at Michelle and Josh and thought about how far they have come in this last two years, it truly makes my heart jump. They are healthy and happy and they have their own little big people personalities. It is as if they have always been a part of our world in an so many ways....they have! These two little people are our family. Just where they are supposed to be! And truly...it is so nice to meet with these awesome China friends to look back...remember....revisit the journey that we have all taken. Because it was wonderful.




When I get to be with the Cole family it is as if time has stood still. We have a connection with them and with our other China friends that goes way beyond a few weeks together in another country!



I am so grateful to have this family in my life...to call my friends...and to continue to share in the joys of our families together!! Thanks Midge for posting these pics!! Till the next time!! :) We love you all!

Tuesday, February 22, 2011

Friends......


I miss blogging to, for and about my friends and family! It's time to begin again! The below story was my inspiration to get back on the computer and to share stories and thoughts that run through my head! Have an awesome week!

Hard but powerful words....

Yesterday, my kids, along with many others...were playing in the back yard. Swinging each other on the Hammock and laughing and screaming like it was equal fun to space mountain in Disney! It was like music to the ears of the mom's as we talked and listened to the fun our little people were having!

And then...the dreaded cry? Several of us ran to find out what was happening. Normally when I enter a situation where a child is crying...the first thing I would say is, "R U OK!!??!!??" But for whatever reason the first thing I said....as I squatted down in front of the person upset was, "R U Hurt, or angry?" As shocked as we both were by my words, the answer came quick, "I'm mad!....so and so pushed me "on purpose"."

As we all sat and talked about what happened, it was clear to me that no one did anything on purpose, rather a crazy and fun game went bad for a second, and there was a casualty. And so I did my mom spiel by reminding them that being hurt or shoved or whatever....is no less scary and hurts no less just because it was an accident. And so the right thing to say....no matter if we are at fault or not...is, "I'm sorry."

They listened so well and an "I'm sorry was immediately thrown out to the sad child." And this child's frown turned to a huge smile The instant the words were out there...and they just all ran right back to the hammock and started the game again!! :) The game continued for hours until it was just time to go in for dinner!!

I was so proud of the apology, the friendship that they showed, the resilience of the person who was wronged! It showed love and maturity...on all accounts. And it got me thinking. About the power of the words, I'm sorry.

When you make a mistake: It's hard to say I'm sorry. At times, no matter how old you are, saying these words feels a bit like an admission of guilt? And when the intentions were not malicious - we try so hard to preserve our innocence that we have a hard time spitting it out.

Much easier to say I am sorry to a true friend. Someone that knows your spirit and your heart! Someone that knows that you love them! But let's be honest...we are human beings that may make a mistake. Misjudge a situation, blurt out the wrong thing...walk the wrong path for a brief moment. The words "I am sorry" do not show that you are bad or mean, they prove that your want to show the person your true heart it more important than saving face! Huge! Saying I'm sorry NEVER makes you look guilty! It only makes you look concerned and loving!

When you are wronged: Life is hard and as mom's, people, children, we have to take some amount of control in our lives to keep us going. I clean my house to feel in control some days. We protect ourselves from unfamiliar situations by opting out of certain social situations, we choose activities that we have some comfort level in. All so that we can do our best to spend most of our time - on top of the world. Happy and secure.

The truth of the matter is....And I mean this metaphorically....if you play a game that involves being upside down on a hammock, there is a chance you will bite the dust. But there is also a chance that you will have more fun than you have had in weeks? Hmm....toss up?

As adults we can pre-think our decisions a bit more, but just the same, we all find ourselves in a place some days that says, "Wow...I never even thought of the possibility that this might hurt me and now that it has...I have lost faith in myself a bit."

And in the turmoil of lost faith....it is AMAZING how hearing the words, "I'm sorry that happened to you. R U OK?".......can tell your brain...."Oh...it's ok...someone understands me and my situation...I'm going to keep on trudging this path." The words almost diffuse that fear that creeps into us!

And so I have learned from my children again this weekend. The power of some simple words. The internal struggle to say them is real....and so is the power of healing that they provide! I vow to make sure my children know the value of this concept, and above that I vow that I will live by this lesson that these sweet babies reminded me of.